How To Fix A Broken Heart......

This fun & light-hearted entry is dedicated to my loving friends, especially the ones who might be a little discouraged, with me, let's hold hands together and get through life and to heaven with minor scratches! Meanwhile, I'll root for you with pom-poms till the end of time!

Recently I've been having a lot of conversations with the broken hearted(be it for work,relationships,life…etc etc). For some reason, friends, even if we have just met not terribly long ago, feel comfortable pouring out their innermost sorrows to me.

I should start a Rehab for the broken hearted.Awwww........really,can i??

I guess most of us would have our fair share of broken hearts and it is truly difficult to get over someone, something or a disappointing situation, crushed dreams, and even yourself.

Maybe some of us are blessed with truly busy jobs - we just have no time to dwell upon things. Though sometimes, for a fleeting moment, you are reminded of that someone. Or perhaps in that few empty moments before you go to bed, you think about what you shouldn't have done.

Some meaningful truths and lessons I've learned along the way:

P.s. Note they are completely original. I didn't rip them off some self-help book.

1) Realize it takes time. Don't expect to be happy immediately but don't walk around with a sullen face either.

2) Go for a haircut! Change your image! Its temporal but it forces you to focus on something else.

3) Count your blessings!

4) Go for some personal development plan - cooking, dancing,singing. Also focus your energies on changing something about yourself - just to feel a little buzz, desire to be a better person.

5) Re-brand yourself. If you are a hermit, go out more! Party & Party Real Hard!!! If you are a socialite, try changing the scene altogether, and go on a mission trip to Cambodia,South Africa,Slovakia,...watever.....

6) Plan revenge! This always works to a certain extent. And look fabulous as you do.Sway your hair.....

7) B****! Or rather, vent! Be careful not to overstay your listener's welcome, if you know what I mean. (You don't want to be losing your friends the same time you are getting over your broken heart.) **I wonder if men does them too…but nevertheless,I guess men does them by “bottoms-ing UP**

8) If its over someone whom you had a relationship with, hang out with the best looking people you can find! You'll feel better having adoring male (or female) attention, even if they are not in love with you! If its over yourself, don't feed on negative thoughts but rather give yourself extra pampering! If its over your lost dreams etc, throw out your old journal and get a new one and start writing new dreams/plans/strategy or hibernate for awhile before doing them.

9) Make new friends! Develop existing friendships. Find quality people to hang out with.

10) Honestly, even after doing all these, you'll still find sometimes feeling empty. That means you've got a BIG one on your hands, or in this case, a big crack in your heart. (maybe sometimes you may still wanna rack your brains a little to see if you could win the situation over to start it all over again)

It’s ok, whatever the case, juz move On!!!!We live to look forward to everything beautiful in life…….

Cheers!!!!!

**Lianz Turnz on to her ipod & listens to Micheal Buble-How Can You Mend A Broken Heart......ZZZZzzzz......

Why Do We Buy??

Yeah the weather does kills me for the past 2 weeks.Even toyottie suffered from heat-stroke,almost!At last, this morning was a better weather to begin with at least for me to get my bum to work.

I’ve come to realize I constantly neglect my blog whenever I find myself indulging in some kind of “activity” which leaves me feeling really lethargic.Ummm….yes some “activity”!!!hehe….some games of Lies & Tales & Tell…..ok whatever it is I don’t wanna elaborate here…..

It has been such a long while since I updated any happenings to I, Me & Myself and I dunno where I should exactly start.
Ummm……ok,I’ve been doing quite a bit of shopping,eh basically for entertainment sake and probably some for a newly added family member(not mine....she's my Bro-in-law's),Princess Clara Ong.Ohhh….she’s such a adorable pretty darling,I love her tiny mouth when she yawns….

Clara caught in a camera-Shocked!!!

I added a new entertainment gadget,Wii, which Liyan Meimei,Lili and Mel got them too and I’m still waiting for that Wii party among us to happen*meimei I hope you read this* though I’m sure it would be without Mel*boohoo,left to freeze in the Brit*.Got a new iphone which was ok,F.O.C(so im not guilty of exactly buying it)…somehow this phone kind of amuse and entertainment me quite abit when I can’t get to sleep, sitting on the car as John drives and most of the time updating myself on FB.**seems like I didn’t exactly do a lot of shopping anyway**

But the G.S.S is here to come and pay day has juz past!!!Wheeee…..(I was writing about this shopping urge at the same time having a MSN dialogue with Nip discussing if we should meet in our dreamzzz to Paragon for a shopping spree…Hehehehe,that hyper hopeless shopoholic Queen!!!!)


I absolutely love and hate it when I have the shopping urges. Sometimes I just want to go out and buy something! I often wonder, with everything going on the cheap and now that everyone is addicted to Cheap, how do people in the past survive with shopping for one pair of shoes a year?*One pair is madness to Girls…kill us.If you watched the new Heineken Ads on TV,awesome!!!*

Why do we consume?

We consume, buy things to add value to our lives, no? At least I think it is so for the most of us, subconsciously. We consume to better our lives or in hopes of increasing our quality of living.

So I ask myself, is shopping just therapy for something empty in my life? Am I trying to express myself by stuff I bring home? Am I expressing some sort of dissatisfaction with the way I live? Perhaps there is some problem I can't solve and therefore this new thing will do it once and for all? How about that I use whatever is in my hand to distract myself from what I should really be doing? Maybe I have no goal in my life, nothing to work towards to, so I work towards an image of myself that I think I like, for instance, carrying the latest gazebo, wearing the latest, reading the latest etc. etc. etc.

But when I look at whatever I am about to buy, does it really solve that problem that I think I need?

"Oh I need this - it is the staple to my life. I always do not have enough of this." What common utter-nonsense I hear myself say.

Maybe I've been programmed to buy when I'm bored. Do I really need to go out to buy something just because I'm bored? Do I really need to appear in some ten thousand dollar outfits? Is it true that people will think I have no clothes just because they saw me in the same outfit twice?

REALLY?

Why do people become shoppaholics?

Is it because they have no identity? Such the need to constantly change their look like Vogue magazine? Why do people talk about shopping all the time? Why do they constantly talk about their loot? Why do people think about material things all the time?

I do believe we need something fresh all the time in our lives. We have to move on, leave the old and stale and embrace newness.

Is shopping a way to cultivate a constance sense of newness and freshness?

Is shopping, and over spending of what we don't really have the cause of this credit crisis right now?Am I a victim too??

It is so interesting about how all of us, especially we who live in cosmopolitan cities where we are surrounded by beautiful man-made materials, things and gazebos. We buy gadgets to solve our problems. We consume entertainment when we are bored. We spend when we socialize. We subscribe to gyms and beauty centers for our health and beauty. We send text messages to communicate. To express ourselves, we wear nice things, do funny things to our hair, wear pretty scarves.

***Disclaimer: this is not an entry to condemn shopping or buying or spending money for I, of all people, is a enthusiast/victim/devotee of such.

I mean, if you didn't bring it? Buy it! If you don't have it, buy it! If you want to look a certain way, buy it! If you like it, buy it! The first thing that comes to our minds everything there is an imperfect situation - buy it!

Recently, in my classes of psychology, we come into “understanding what is the causes to every reason for doing things”.Probably, we should seek our inner soul for the reason why…….

I have not catch the movie "Confessions Of A shopoholic but i guess it must be hilarious...i've read one of the books though.It truly is not your usual trashy chick-lit - it is a work of art.

Back to work on this cool weathered Wednesday Afternoon......

XOXOXO

The Hot Weather Kills

Hey what's with the weather recently...global warming?whatever!!!hmph but somehow it makes me not in the mood for any updating....um.....gimme some time alrighty to load up some peektures tomorrow instead.......

SOMEONE,SHOOT THE SUN DOWN!!!!!!!!!

Is Absolute Possible??

I like my things in black and white. I absolutely hate greys.*I dun mean clothes* But I've realized that I've got so many greys in my life! I have so many things that I've kept in my old luggages, thinking, oh maybe someday I will use it. Someday I will wear it. Maybe I will need it. Blah blah blah.*or does this happens to most people??*

It all boils down to my indecisiveness with these stupid little things!

I've kept so much stuff.

Old hopes, old dreams, things I hang on to, waiting around so that if it does happen, I will be there to embrace it. People that I've hung on to, old friends that I hope to continue to...old hobbies that I still want to take up, old ambitions etc. Though I've subscribed to the simple, quality not quantity life. I don't want a complicated life so I ONLY want a small collection of everything, my stuff, thoughts, things that I will do with my life, friendships, relationships.

So I should let it all go now. Or at least take a more stringent inventory. Move on, woman! Forget sentimentality. It does nothing for anyone!!!

I never "collect" but in a way I'm so over "collecting" material things, friends, activities, new interests, pleasing everyone etc. It's a woman's nature to be accommodating, no?

Away with complications! Nothing should ever be complicated. It's complicated because I allow things to be. Just as BC told me yesterday about “complication”. In fact, it was she who said this to me.

They clutter my life! They clutter my head, my mind, my space, my breath.
Away with these things! I don't need more things, I will now only go for quality.

Everything shall be a quality investment of time.

To the end with complicated matters. Stuff it all.

Back to work on a Gloomy Friday……..

At The Crossroad......

Recently I've been rather quiet because I've been writing a lot internally. Things about the future are still uncertain and I've been feeling rather impatient. Everything's on hold right now and its not even in my hands to decide my own crossroad. Although, it was my choice to allow this to happen prior to that. I stand by it with conviction.

I think there is a time to just enjoy the day as it comes and trust that we can overcome it.

I've been going through several creative periods where I just feel so creative!*singing my tunes in the bathroom and talking to myself before I goes to bed probably has been more of distressing to being creative*

I remember the last periods of quiet time of my life was probably about five years ago when I stayed most times in the room reflecting on myself and the road I should take from then .

It was peaceful.

I was alone often but not lonely because I could feel the many friends waiting to see me moving to a new direction, always with me.

Perhaps I'm in that mode again while preparing me for what is next?

Lianz in Venice....

Hi hi.....here i am trying to squeeze in some time for a real short post for a few people....mmm....ok,some people then.Firstly,sista,happy birthday!!!!juz in case my timing is all wrong by then....by the way,im all mixed up by time n dates....argh.....the cold weather is killing my nose and head,giving me migraines and causing me bad sleep.boohooo......pout.....THen,to all my gal pals out there....sux,i cant spent xmas with you ppl there.....super sux!!!!MERRY X'MAS to YOUUUUUU....*i'll be in Switzerland for a White Xmas then*.....

I felt so lost in virtual world.MY internet access is so limited here BUT my "willpower" to shop here is atrocious...heeee...yes,PRADAs,MIU MIU,FURLAs & GUCCIs are on S-A-L-E-S!!!!!woohhhooooo.....do i hear people wailing ????muhahhaaa.....
Yes!!!! PRADA & FURLA conquered for now.......wheeeee......i almost got myself "bankrupt" in PRADA!!!!Well,my "will-power" is still strong!!!
I was such a material girl yet trying to tame myself by telling myself "no...no more,dun do that kathy!!!or your lecturers are gonna "counsel" you on your 1st day of class".....booohooo....

Argh,it's 9:48pm here and the dark cold sky and the awful thoughts of not being able to sleep yet having no shops around starts killing Lianz!!!Yes,not even food outlet to say...there is a pizza cafe opposite my hotel but it closes @10pm anyway.....Sighhhzzz
Food here sux....i'm "downing" myself vigorously with "cafe latte" on a dosage of approximately 3cups per day AT LEAST!!!!*i've never fancy coffee to start off with*.......

Mmm...ok,i gtg for now....no one's on MSN anyway at this miserable time of 4am Singapore time .....
Ciao......

Screensaver Mode Lianz......

My mind is buzzing at a speed that my understanding can't catch up. That is probably why I never am able to have beautiful handwriting. I can barely keep up with my thoughts.

Remember the story about how Thomas Edison (or was it Einstein) had two cats - a big and a little cat? Annoyed at always being interrupted in his labwork to let those cats in and out, he made 2 holes in the wall. One large one for the big cat and a small hole for the little cat. You would think he should have been smart enough to realize one BIG HOLE in the wall is sufficient.

That's like me today. There are so many things going on and I could hardly breathe the whole of November and now I am into DECEMBER….and believe it,I love Christmas………………………
I HAVE ALOT OF THINGS TO WRITE!

My mind was so focused with my eyes half opened, with thoughts running through it at a zillion miles per second.
It was as though my brain just went on screensaver mode.
Automation to the max……….

Part of my head was doing this ping-pong thing where I explore every possible scenario and various responses and part of it was like a MacBook Air overheating at the verge of shutting down. Next year seems a very exciting year though….my mind went into a rage of 1001 things I’m looking forward to do and to go ahead with. I always seem to know how to give myself more work to do, and more things to work out. ?!??!?!

I want to stop thinking about it but I'm afraid I will forget everything. When inspiration hits me, my brain just goes into overdrive mode and thoughts just can't stop flowing

Okay I better stop……..

Here are some pictures of me and my gal pals over the whole period of time where I went missing and being missed by all……..on this bloggie blog…..


A Lianz Affair......21/09/08


A Sista Affair......12/11/08


The Hen's Affair 20/11/08

Lonely Affair @ The Airport 23/11/08

The Big Affair......29/11/08

Wait!!!!!

All Those wasnt So Lianz Right???Muhahhaa....

There were Parties after then....


Lianz In Armour Suit!!!!!Who dares To Smile???


A Toast To Friendship.....

Poser Princess.......

Lonely Babe @ Lan Kwai Fang with her Lychee Martini....:)

Hahaaa......3 Drunken SPGsss......

I love love love. This is so my kind of thing. Sooo me.